Sunday, September 25, 2005

High School Relationships: Doomed to Fail...

The more and more I think about High School relationships, the more dumb I think teenagers are...Why is it that High School relationships usually end up failing? What mistake(s) are we teenagers making that lead to the inevitable, "You're breaking up with me?!?"

One big mistake is the most common one that we hear from adults; mistaking lust for love. It's true, cliche, but true. It's a common fact that teenage hormones are haywire. We have all these new feelings and do know how to control them, so we let our hormones get the best of us. So we find ourselves getting into a relationship, not for companionship, but for wild make-out sessions instead. Since so much time is spent making out instead of talking, only after we finally control the feelings of lust inside that we discover we really don't like the person we are dating, therefore leading to another painful, awkward break-up.

The second most common mistake made by high-schoolers goes hand-in-hand with mistaking lust for love. Rushing. Because of all these new feelings, and our inability to define and seperate one from another, we rush into things. Rather than taking the time to get to know the person, we act on our physical attraction to them. And if we're not rushing a relationship purely because of physical attraction, we are rushing it because we think we're mature enough to handle being in a commited, serious relationship. While I do realise there are people who have ended up being happily married to their high school sweet hearts, the majority of teenagers are most definetly not emotionally ready.

High School relationships should not be hot and passionate. That only leads to baaaad things, like pregnancy, emotional pain, and more teen-angst than seems humanly possible. What they should be is cute and awkward. You should have the awkward moment where you go to a movie and play the (what I like to call) "Hand Holdin' Game." You should have the, "Oh does he like me, does he not like me?" moments of panic. They should treat you like a princess/prince, and not like their possession, they should respect your opinion, and not shoot it down, and if you say no, then they should respect that...These are what should happen, but unfortunately what doesn't happen in High School Relationships, and that's why they are Doomed to Fail.

8 comments:

that lisa girl said...

...gash, stoopid high school relationships... you can't live with them, but you can't live without them... it sucks! we should sue. hah, ah..

thesexyswede said...

okay, guys I realise that this essay is kind of hypocritical of me to post....because I myself am in a relationship right now...buuuut...it's true!

Smiles0415 said...

Jessy!!!!! I always like plan to write a blog and then you write the exact thing I was planning on writing!!!!!! Like honestly...I was going to write about Romeo and Juliet and how completely retarded they were as teenagers. It must be a fifth sense, Jessy...wierd...

Button said...

no see what would be hypocritical of you would be if you were lusting and having a lot of make out time with your boy. but guess what you aren't so you aren't being hypocritical. its awesome that you posted this because I know a lot of people have been thinking about it. People need to learn to slow down and enjoy the small things. thats what relationships are there for. they should be enjoyed not rushed. I love you...be happy

thesexyswede said...

oh I am happy....more happy than most teenagers because I'm enjoying the small things and that's what it's about, and I'm glad that you understand:D

thesexyswede said...

*because I am enjoying the small things.*


sorry my computer is freaking gay

Melissa said...

You are 1000% correct in your post. That is exactly why they fail - believe me, I REMEMBER! And, just as an FYI to you - of all of my friends who did marry their highschool sweetheart (and I'm from a small town so believe me, there were PLENTY!), every single one of them ended in divorce except for two - thats SO FAR and we're only 30-31 years old. I'm not sure why this is the case but I think it might have something to do with building your initial relationship on rather "immature principles", regardless of it does "work out".

Good luck ... I would like to say it gets better... maybe it does, but not by much! ; )

thesexyswede said...

melissa...I have no idea who you are, but I LOVE YOU! thank you for backing me up!